When things aren’t going so well I tend to retreat in on myself and speak about it less- if I don’t verbalise it (or in this case type it) then quite simply it isn’t happening.Now, as we slide in to a brand new year I finally feel as though I am ready to address things and begin to move forwards again.
One way or another this is going to be a big year for me, kicking off with moving out of my parental home to a flat with Ben and there are many more goals I have that I wan’t to achieve over the next 365 days.
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I have never been one to set resolutions for the new year, not ones that are concrete and set in stone as I feel that essentially I am setting myself up to fail. I can’t afford to fail this time though, there is too much at stake. At 28 years of age I am simply too old to retreat back in to anorexia every time the going gets tough. Therefore, with the usual fear and trepidation my number one goal for the year is to get my weight, and more importantly my health back on track so I can well and truly move away from the illness’ grasp and FINALLY live a life free of it.
Another aim for the coming year is to learn to think a little less. I will be the first to admit to being an over-thinker. Even the simplest of things like which shoes to wear or what to put on my toast in the morning can be a mammoth task when my anxiety levels are high. I’m currently using the book “Fear the Fear and do it Anyway” to help break this cycle and if anyone would be interesting in a follow up as to how I get on I’d be happy to share.
Blogging may be a bit sporadic over the next few weeks as I prepare to move, get moved and get internet sorted. I suppose I’ll also be grappling with that urge to jump on the first post-Christmas diet that gets advertised. There’s something quite ironic about trying to put weight on in January, right? Especially when there is still an evil resident in your head telling you that there is no need and trying to make you delete this entire post.
I’d like to take the blog down more of a lifestyle route this year, moving away from being only my personal style. I’d welcome comments and suggestions on what kind of content you’d be interested in reading, as the people who keep coming back here to see what I have to say your feedback is invaluable.
Happy New Year to you lovely. I hope you manage to achieve your goals, life on the other side is so much better, trust me. Always here if you need me and maybe 2016 is the year we meet! xx
Sam // Samantha Betteridge
‘Socialise more (because blogging events are meant to be fun, not a huge source of anxiety)’ – this is me too! I spend so much time worrying about them I end up not enjoying them when I do end up going. I hope to change that in 2016; same with commenting on blogs too!
Congratulations on your plans to move out! What a great way to go into the New Year 🙂
Rai x
I personally don’t like the lifestyle Blogs at all, I find them dull and repetitive. If you go down that route I wish you all the best but I shall not continue reading. Personal is the most interesting!
I’m not sure I actually know what a lifestyle blog really is (I’ve never quite grasped what that means!)but you know I am here for you whatever you Di Laura. I really wish you the best for 2016- you can say goodbye to Anorexia for good! if you want the company of a similarly anxious person at a blogging meet up, I’m here! That is something I’ve recently acknowledged is the fact I get way too anxious about things. Just a few things at school that I’ve stressed far too much about and can’t stop myself thinking about made me realise that-I’ve even lost a patch of hair on my head from anxiety I suspect!
Good luck for the new year!Xx
Happy new year Laura, I believe in you! <3
Wishing you all the best for 2016, Laura. You deserve to be happy and healthy and I hope it all falls into place for you x x x
2016 will be brilliant for you, I know it! It sounds like you’re starting it with the perfect mindset 🙂 This WILL be the year you break free! You’ve made so much progress already over the last few years that you can build on. I’d really like to meet more bloggers in person but I find the idea pretty scary! Maybe this year… Wishing you all the best for 2016 🙂
Liz xx
Distract Me Now Please
I’ll join you and Kezzie in the awkward and petrified bloggers corner. Nothing ironic about putting weight on in January, January is about new starts and a new you. I am trying to exercise more (not lose weight, although I’m sure I will) – blegh!
Lizzie Dripping
A lovely post! Happy 2016! xx
This post makes me super happy Laura. Like super, super happy! Keep being amazing and Im so excited to see how things work out for you this year!
Happy 2016 my lovely!
I’d love to read more about your personal “things” as well as see more of your fashion styles on your blog! I’d also love to know how you are getting on with your past illness and how you’ll finally be saying goodbye to in 2016! Would love to see some posts on you moving out of parents, how that affects your blog life and personal life – I love to read it all…. I guess that’s like socialising with a friend, right? Knowing about their struggles, happy moments and of course obsess about their clothes and shoe collection!
Have a fab 2016 and thanks for all your support so far!
Big Love,
Tatyana x
Happy new year Laura, good luck with 2016 – sounds like you’ve got big plans.
Hopefully this year is the year you can kick anorexia’s ass once and for all! Go you, lady <3
Jess xo
Happy New Year! I’m so happy for you to be moving in with your BF! It’d be great to see a follow up on the book, my anxiety really took a turn for the worst in 2015 and I’m determined to get back on track this year. I always chicken out of blogging events, either not knowing anyone OR my anxiety. <3 Lucy at Lucyy Writes
Congratulations in advance on your upcoming move. It’s something I am DESPERATE not to have to do in 2016, having done a vast number in the last 10 years. Happy New Year Laura, pleased to hear you’re still fighting on.
Well done on taking the first step (opening up about it and sharing with us – although it was clear for everyone to see how much you are struggling lovely). I am the same as you, when the going gets tough I retreat into myself. Head in sand syndrome, it may be easy but it doesn’t help us or anyone around us. And as I get older, I am learning the easiest path doesn’t always give the biggest rewards too. I would be interested in seeing how you find that book and whether you would recommend it. I am interested in reading it.
I am sure 2016 will be a wonderful one for you, massive changes ahead and it sounds like you have plans to really get on top of things. I will be following along and cheering you on (even if I don’t post that often anymore, I still always read). So excited about your move xxx