Yesterday was one of “those days” where six outfit later you still feel a mess and in a fit of frustration you throw on jeans and the baggiest top you can find (Oasis jeans and Bershka top). The redeeming factor to this was my new and slipper like comfortable Desigual Flats c/o Sarenza who ensured my feet, at least were happy in their attire.
I’m trying hard not to let “those days” drag me down. We all get them right? A sudden wave of insecurity over how we look and nothing looks right. I’m getting that a lot lately and it’s a learning curve to push through. I’m on an adventure to gain my weight and health back, pushing some boundaries I haven’t pushed before…it’s understandable that those days happen and slowly but surely I am getting there.
How do you deal with those days? My current and somewhat impulsive solution is to want to rush out and by a whole new wardrobe of clothes to drape myself in; unrealistic and impossible (and somewhat pointless if my shape is going to carry on changing for a while). Just because I feel bloated and that nothing fits anymore does not make it true.
What I AM doing is not putting pressure on myself to dress up, to embrace what feels comfortable and on the days I feel better…those are the days were I’ll be prancing around in a shorter dress and killer heels.
Blogging is theraputic too, getting perspective by seeing how I actually look in the photos I take, rather than the warped image I see in the mirror…it sounds odd, theraputic blogging, but I’m probably not the only one.
Mind over Matter.
I’ll get there…we’ll all get there.
xxx
What do I do? I share my thoughts with someone who listens and doesn’t just dismiss my wibbles and tell me I “look fine”. It is imprtant to reach out, because some things are too hard to go through alone :cuddle: and having someone say “I hear you” can sometimes be enough
Lucy xx
Im feeling your pain from the other side of the issue. I’m losing to get healthy and I have nothing that fits and when I eventually get where I want to be I don’t even know what my style will be, I’ve been so frumpy for so long! Let’s keep the goal in mind though and remember that this is only a phase in the middle of being where we want, no NEED to be. xXx
I completely agree abut blogging being therapy, I feel much more at home being myself after 1.5 years of sharing how I look.
Baggy jumpers solve all 🙂 x
You are going to get there and you deserve to get there. Im glad blogging helps cause I would miss you if you werent here. Sending you a big hug.
Yep, all the best people do theraputic blogging! I’m trying hard at the moment to ‘be with’ difficult emotions rather than avoid them. To try and notice how they feel etc rather than immeadiately do something harmful to make it stop. That makes no sense but I know what I mean!
You’re doing so well right now, you are amazing!
xx
Blogging is a great way to deal with crappy days as we seem to have the best support group.
X x
PS you always look fabulous
X x
Blogging is way better than a mirror. You’re spot on, it’s therapy. xxx
Blogging is definitely very therapeutic.
I must say Laura you are looking mighty fine, your hair looks awesome!
I don’t think I’ve seen your foot tattoo before, it looks lovely! xx
((big hugs)) days like that are crap, but you’re right blogging about it is theraputic. You still manage to look glam even in jeans, I have no idea how you do it!
xx
blogging can definitely be therapeutic.. when I have those days I always want to go on a shopping spree too, it’s hard not to. You look fab anyway, those flats are very cute xx
my instinct is to splurge and hibernate in equal measure on these days but neither make me feel better. Blogging definitley can help and surrounding yourself with positive, supportive people (easier said than done). I can empathise a lot, especially at the minute, and will be thinking of you and hoping you feel brighter soon.
ps your new hair style is very, very chic! i’m dying to get mine this short
xox
I have days like that, I usually dress my self up in my favourite clothes and do my hair all nice to make myself feel better. Your hair looks gorgeous ! xx
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Mind over matter hun, cos no matter what you THINK you see… it is more than likely a warped perception. You think you look bloated and your clothes dont fit… i was just looking at this pic and thinking that you were looking thinner.
Hop you are ok chick. im still loving that tattoo 🙂
x
I talk things over with my boyfriend, he’s really good at making me feel better.
Hope things are better lady.
insecurity hits me from time to time too.but what can we do!thank god we have blogging!
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I normally end up back in my PJS on those kinda day! Luckily my husband is a good sound box for when I get down.
You have the right attitude and I can see how blogging can be good therapy.
Just wanted to say what a difference your cut and colour has made, it suits you so much and you look gorgeous with it! (Late to comment on that I know, been busy :()
Nice choices you got the control!
I get those days a lot. I don’t know how I deal with them really, they suck.
I really admire your attitude though =)
xx
Those days suck.
I try to force myself not to just hide under the covers, but to do something I enjoy that will take my mind off my woes. For me this is normally box sets of dvds and computer games, or I lose myself in reading the entire archives of my favourite blogs!
Blogging is so therapeutic, you’re right! I adore your hair <3 xo
it’s annoying isn’t it, you gotta have back up clothes to fall back on
Ahhh you’re so gorgeous I totally agree, blogging is theraputic to me even though it seems inconceivable it would be. I have my bad days when I ccan’t imagine ever posting a picture of myself again but then the love and support I get is amazing. I love your jumper here hun infact I want + need it in my life ha-ha!
Sarah
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xx
Keep up the good work, your doing fantastically 🙂
Loving the tattoo btw xx
Keep up the good work, your doing fantastically 🙂
Loving the tattoo btw xx
Oh angel I’m sorry that these thoughts invaded your mind 🙁
You are still in an unhealthy place which deep down you know. When I find myself berating how I look and feel I look at the cold hard facts. For me absent period, therapy, distorted body image, fear foods, invasive thinking, poor well being and realise that there is still some way to go before everything will be where it should be. The thoughts about how you look aren’t real if only you could see what we do and that a beautiful wonderful person that has the best style out of anyone I know! You are not a weight or size not to us…and never will be. You are lovely Laura 🙂
I love you xxx
Jewelry splurging is usually my little pick me up, I can usually always afford a little something for less than $5 or a little thrifting will do the trick. The nice thing about blogging I think is that even though it’s not necessary, it’s nice to have people reaffirm the fact that they like the way you dress or how you style yourself even on days where you feel terrible.
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I hope you get past the down days and back to your happy, healthy self my dear. I was having one of those days today and this evening I felt very low so I got in the shower and had some time to myself. Take each day slowly, relax and as you said accept yourself and love yourself. Take care my lovely! xxx
I watch a Timothy Olyphant movie and that man’s face reassures me that there is a god, and that he/she is capable of making good things happen 😉
Keep the faith Laura, you look great ♥
J x
Now we have matching shoes and matching jumpers! Sunday outfit sorted for next weekend!!!!!!!!!
Love you x
Oh I do love the tattoo!!! Xxo
Nice article and I agree with almost everything, but I think you create a new problem, where people are forced to make their point in the first three lines or 140 characters which isn’t necessarily a good thing.
I’m not sure if I’ve commented before but I’ve been enjoying your blogs and I know what you mean about doing a blog being therapeutic. I haven’t felt as comfortable with myself as I have in a long time since I started here. It’s funny how just chatting and posting pics of stuff I like is making me look at my life a lot more, but it is. You look lovely in your outfit by the way! xx
You are the loving example of mind over matter, as ever, you look amazing! I try and just forget about what I am worrying about by meeting up with people and doing fun things (like going to the cinema)
Maria xxx
Youre definitely not alone in this hun. I can really relate to what u are going through right now. Just keep doing what u need to do to be happy and healthy again. WObbles will happen and thats ok,just dont give up. Like u say, WE WILL GET THERE xxx
Blogging definitely seems to be therapeutic for you and a lot of people feel similar ways. It fab that you have found blogging to be so helpful to you and i love your honesty…i think you blogging is helpful to a lot of people. In time those days will get less and less. There is a chance that, they may get more, as you continue to challenge yourself, there is the reality that in this fight, it gets harder before it gets better again,but one day those days will be far and few between and your fight will have been so worth the struggle. You are clearly very very underweight still, im glad that you are pushing yourself to recognise that the Laura you see staring back at you in the mirror, is seen by your eyes and your eyes only. We all see a truly beautiful young lady, and although yes admittedly still underweight by far, that is not what we see,you are not your weight, you are Laura, your gorgeous inside and out and your an inspiration. Keep fighting, you will get there. If you want it, which you clearly do, then you will get there. Health and happiness <3 <3
You keep going Laura, it’s really good that blogging helps you! You are fabulous and that comes from within, not from any perceived outward appearance. Stay strong and continue being the lovely you, wear what makes you feel good at whatever time you feel it makes you feel so and we’ll be here to admire how you put things together and entertain us with your blog posts whilst caring about you! Take care xx
Stay strong Laura, you are beautiful and have the most lovely outfits! The print on the Bershka top is gorgeous. I must say your new hair looks fab too! 🙂
Caroline x
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I feel like this a lot, I can’t seem to keep a stable size or shape. My solution is similar to yours- embrace a loose fit jumper and jeans/leggings, but to make sure my loose fitting tops are pretty ones- Topshop studded jumper or my new flecked t-shirts, and to wear awesome shoes (never quite as good as yours).
Tremendous respect for you and your achievement, mind over matter indeed!