A Note

I’m not easily provoked, and it is unfortunate that the latest wave of Anon comments came at a time where I had no home internet to defend myself…

I want to address the main issue that seems to be causing so much conflict; my weight.

I am a recovering Anorexic. I have never kept my illness a secret on my blog and I have no issues in it being public knowledge.
What bothers me is when people jump to conclusions without knowing me and accuse me of seeking attention or validation through my blog.

If you took the time to read back, or even drop me an e-mail (I don’t bite) you’d know that I have blogged consistently despite what stage I am at. Right now I am in the process, at long last, of gaining some weight back, and I have no intention of stopping blogging as soon as I hit healthy. I don’t only post pictures when underweight,
I posted leading up to my hospital admission, and straight after, depsite a massive change in my appearance.  I don’t see why I should give up, or feel guilty for doing something I love just incase someone wants to make a decision about my supposed intentions without getting their facts straight.

I KNOW I’m not 100% right now, I know things need to change, and dammit, I cannot click my fingers and fix it over night no matter how much I wish I could. I’m sorry if my blog upsets or triggers some people, but I cannot  and will not be held responsible for that. You make the choice to click on my page and I promise I will not be mortally offended if you choose not to view it,
in fact, I’d prefer it if you didn’t.

All I ask is think before you type. I do not need to be accused of flaunting a figure that I’m trying to change for the better, I’ve made several references of late to how I am trying to get well and put weight on…telling me how shit I look and what a bad, terrible influence I am isn’t going to change that. Blogging has been the one thing I have had throughout being ill, the one thing that wasn’t taken away from me. There’s a lot I’ve lost over the last ten years of my life and this won’t be one of them. If you don’t like that, then fine. If you have something to say, fine. Just don’t hide behind a mask…be brave enough to leave a name.

To those who have supported me and held me through the ups and downs. Thank you.

To the rest of you *shrugs*
there’s not much this post will change, no doubt. But I didn’t get the chance to defend myself in comments and this seems to cover most areas of concern.

Watch this space for the new and improved Laura. I’m getting there, slowly. Something is different this time, very different and I’m looking forward to sharing the adventures.

40 comments for “A Note

  1. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been getting many nasty comments.

    Lately I did notice that you were thinner than you were before, but I also know that you want to recover and get to a healthy weight. And I actually applaud you for continuing your outfit post during this struggle, because it takes a lot of guts to keep putting yourself out there.

    Anyway, as far as ups and downs go, I really hope you’ve had most of your downs and will be on a speedy road to a happy and healthy life! Best of luck<3

  2. As ever, you know how much I love you and I am ALWAYS here for a chat, whatever time of the day or night. Ignorant people will always jump to conclusions but you are an inspiration to so many people, especially me.

    LOTS of love

    Maria xxx

  3. I can’t believe that people have the nerve to write stuff like that. I actually think that you are an amazing rolemodel to girls struggling with the same things as you are, because what has been very evident in a long time on your blog is that you are trying to sort your life and your problems out. That I find truly inspiring!
    Every person out there with the minimum knowledge about anorexia know how damn hard it is to beat, and the fact that you have taken us on your journey with you is so.. well.. beautiful in a way.

    Keep hanging in there! 🙂

  4. Jo

    Oh god hun, some people are just looking for a reason to criticese and undermine you. I know it’s easier said than done, but ignore them. As you say people choose to look at your blog. I have felt inspired by your determination to get well and think it’s a massive positive that you still want to blog and do outfit posts. I want you to remember that you are an amazing, brave, inspiring person and you will get there.

    There are more people who care and support you than don’t. So ignore the “haters” and focus on what you love and getting well.

    Much love, hugs and positive thoughts.

    Jo xx

  5. Your blog is wonderful! It is diverse, well written, informative and beautiful.

    Your weight has never entered my mind. A lovely blog is a lovely blog. End of story.

    You don’t achieve the success you have with your blog without it being great.

    You are an inspiration in many ways and the fact that you are a recovering anorexic is just one of those ways.

    Move on haters.

    Lisa x

  6. Your blog is so lovely, I read it every day and although I don’t normally comment I feel like I should just to say how amazingly brave you are – any regular reader can see that, and you should never have to feel provoked under pressure to post about your personal situation! Trolls make me so angry – don’t let them win. Big hugs xxx

  7. PS. The fact that you left those nasty comments up instead of deleting them is great. It’s a very brave thing to do and it just makes these losers look stooopid.

    For every mean comment them are 10 supportive ones in return.

  8. you GO girl…
    some people just dont realise quite how horrible this illness can be. there are (sadly) no “quick-fix” cures… you cant stick a plaster on it and say job done. Im so incredibly proud of you for standing up for the fact that recovery is bloody hard! but you are sticking at it… at your own pace. dont let anyone make you think that you arent a good and amazing person, cos you ARE.
    so there!

  9. YES. EXACTLY. You tell them, I cannot that some people are so ignorant and small-minded that they feel the need to write those comments under your posts. You are doing so well, and at the end of the day, your weight is your business. Obviously everyone wants you to be happy and healthy, but it’s absolutely ridiculous for people to keep commenting on your weight… I don’t get it, do they think it’s ‘helping’ or do they know they’re just being bitchy? Can’t decide which is worse!

    Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂


  10. The people leaving those comments don’t know what they are talking about, so many people enjoy reading your blog so don’t stop! I think having your blog and tracking your process and recovery is really important and inspirational. I think you are looking amazing 😀 x

  11. Babes you don’t have to defend yourself, anonymous comments aren’t even worth reading. In my opinion, if you can’t put your name to a comment they it is a cowardly way to be horrible. I love reading your blog, keep your chin up cutie.

  12. You are beautiful inside and out Laura, never forget just how beautiful you are. I know you can overcome and reach all of your goals in time, and please, please don’t listen to these comments, because they are very much untrue <3

  13. This is very brave post and you really shouldn’t have to justify yourself. I’m so sorry you have been ill and I’m so pleased you’re getting better. People are so quick to judge and have no idea what people go through. Ignore them because they’re not worth it. You’ve got a great blog here. X

  14. Some people really, really piss me off. Who the hell do they think they are to come onto your blog and judge you for doing something that helps you. Grrr.

    Keep it up Laura, I would imagine that you inspire a lot of people who are going through similar things, hold your head up high and do what you love. If you can help just one girl who is going through something similar to you then you are an angel xx

  15. I think it’s disgusting that people feel they have the right to post comments like this without actually talking to you or reading what you right about here. You’ve always been so open about what you have gone/are going through and if anything by doing that you’re opening people eyes about what its like living with anorexia and also giving to support to people who are going through the same things you are. Think before you type

  16. Well said Laura. I’ve always admired how open you are about that horrid illness. And I’m loving seeing all of the new posts about getting yourself more healthy. I’m glad you’re addressing the anons and I hope they are ashamed of themselves.
    ((big hugs))

  17. Amen to that!
    You are getting there, and it’s amazing that you feel it’s right this time, I can tell you’ve got your determined head on!
    Keep up the good work gorgeous. xXx

  18. Mat

    some people in this world just suck and why do they do it? it beats me.

  19. I haven’t been following you for long (found you as you’re a fellow Bristol girl!) but I love your blog and you seem like a really great person so it makes me sad that people can be so nasty. For some reason being behind the anonymous computer screen makes people think they can say whatever the hell they want.
    I am a recovered self-harmer and still suffer from the after effects of depression and anxiety and I just wanted to say that I think you’re really brave for being open and honest about your condition, and you should be so proud that you’re gaining weight and taking steps to get better. This kind of thing needs to be talked about more openly and if people can’t deal with that, they have no right to be coming on your blog in the first place.
    I guess what I’m saying is keep doing what you’re doing and don’t let the anons bother you because you’re a better person than they’ll ever be <3 x

  20. Go Laura! Your attitude towards those weirdos is fab, glad they won’t get you down! Loads of luck to you with your recovery, thinking of you gal xxx

  21. Just remember that you have far more supporters than haters. The nameless Anons are cowardly and sad.
    Keep up your positivity and good work x

  22. You tell em hunni, I lost a hell of a lot of weight when I was first diagnosed with depression and I was fully aware that I wasn’t at the best weight for me, but that didn’t stop people pointing it out as if it was something that needed to be announced.

    You are such an inspiration not only to me but to others on being so open and unashamed, so I salute you.

    And congrats on not dropping some F bombs because lord knows those A-holes deserve them.

    Gems x

  23. What a shame some people can say anything nice or positive. I admire your attitude towards them, stay positive. I wish you luck for the future and will always be a regular reader of your blog x

  24. Very well said, love – good on ya. As you say, you have always been very clear about the journey you are on and if anything to me you have raised awareness of the terrible power of eating disorders (and most certainly have NOT glamourised in any way). I support you and applaud you, lady. I know you will get to where you need/want to be. You totally rock! Love ya. xx

  25. Laura, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been getting comments like that – you’re the last person who deserves them and I’m glad you’re not letting them get to you too much!
    You’re so strong and I’m so happy to see you getting healthier. If blogging makes you happy then you stick with it, girl!
    Keep up the positivity 🙂


  26. I hate that you had to write this, it isn’t fair.
    <3 All the best xxxx


  27. No one should be treated differently because of their body. Your personal struggles are exactly that, yours. It takes a lot of courage to talk about them! Some people think they are in control of everyone’s underpants. But it’s none of their business. You are beautiful!

  28. Just to say…I think its amazing that you continue to trek on despite the set backs/knock backs youve had. I know what youre doing isnt easy, and you can only be admired for it, both from me and for others…both of us know youll be a better person for it as the experiences of recovery get better and better both for the future and as a person (physically). Lots of love x

  29. Vix

    You are an incredibly sorted & courageous lady, Laura. Carry on blogging, don’t let an anonymous poke from cyberspace deter you, there’s thousands of us here that adore you and wish you only the very best. xxx

  30. As usually I am a little late in reading this post. I too have had an odd anon comment, far from nice, but think people must have nothing better to do. After all if they don’t like what they see or read then they quite simply don’t have to do they?

    I admire how you have put your illness out there and I for one think that you are doing huge amounts of good for the youngsters(and oldsters) that need to understand it.

    Don’t change the way you express yourself due to small minded people. We (the readers in blogland) are here for support, when you need it, a shoulder, to shed a tear or too, or even to pull silly clown faces, to raise that beautiful smile of yours.

    Huge hugs.

    X x

  31. You tell ’em! Those of us who have been reading your blog for a while (and thats a rather large number!) know you to be anything but attention seeking, and are proud of you for being so honest through EVERY stage of your illness and recovery… keep on going hun, don’t let pathetic anons make you forget how amazing you are!

  32. 1 thing to say: I love you.

    Oh no, sorry, there is a second thing (please excuse my language…)

    FUCK OFF and stop reading. If you don’t like what you see and read, go somewhere else.

  33. What I always repeat to myself when ever I receives unwelcome comments ‘What you think is none of my business’ 😉

    FUCK other people and their comments. Its a huge things that makes recovering very difficult for me personally. I won’t go into that as I could list numerous things that you shouldn’t say to a person full stop. GRRR I hope nobody sets you back honey and please know you are wonderful and we are all rooting for you.

    Much love and hugs xxx

  34. Well said! If people dont like what they see online then nothing is keeping them from clicking away or not reading. Well done for taking the time to respond and being honest xx

  35. Like, like, like, like, like!

    Please ignore the trolls, keep working towards healthy, and know that some of us read your blog everyday without giving your weight or appearance a second thought!

    Keep going!
    Tor xxx

  36. You know that I will support and encourage you for the better, no matter what your outlook or even your weight. You have been such a source of comfort and inspiration to me while I’m battling it myself that it is truly the least I can do. As always, I’m only an email away, and my previous comments to the “h8az” stand – do one. Seriously.

  37. Kate

    One word Laura – coward, and one with no grasp of grammar to boot. It’s afflicted by Dear, not afflicted from… xx

  38. Some people really need to think about what they’re doing when they try to police the internet. Of course there are sites out there that glorify unhealthy skinniness but no sane person could mistake yours for one of them. You’re actually a shining example of someone who’s striving to make a positive change and I think that if anything there need to be more people in your situation getting their voice out there, or just being present.
    It’s not like you even make a big deal out of it, or like that should matter. Your blog is your blog, it’s personal and it’s real and it should show the you you want it to, not some version that’s been passed through a billion different peoples’ views of what “should” be on it.
    Triggering is a serious issue but you don’t post photos that focus on or exaggerate your build or even mention behaviours.
    Sorry I’m so late to this, I’ve been semi-offline for a while & am just catching up with my reader and this got me pretty het up.
    *internet hugs*

  39. I have one single word for your Anons… SERIOUSLY?!

    MAjorly huge super love to you- you’re amazing, A Daisychain Dream is amazing, and your resilience in refusing to allow a few people with bad attitudes spoil something you love.


  40. P.S. You are absolutely beautiful- and yes I know you’re making changes, and I applaud those, but whatever your size/weight, that face of yours… stunning!